Shame is a body response driven by the freeze state of the nervous system

Shame itself is protective and helps us to learn prosocial behaviours – what is acceptable to the tribe or group and what is not. However, if shame occurs regularly and without also a sense of connection and belonging, it can become chronic.

To reshape our system out of shame, we can learn to befriend these sensations. We can learn to become a securely attached friend to our own distressed self. Discover more in our free training.

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We acknowledge the traditional owners of the land on which we share our work, the Arakwal of the Bundjalung, and we pay our respects to Elders past, present and emerging. Always was, always will be.